THE LITTLE THINGS

In life, it's the little things that truly matter and count.  You have memories that are irreplaceable smiles of your children or nieces and nephews that never leave your mind.  Wishes you make as children and friendships that can never be broken.

In life as we grow older we realize the value of things that have been done for us.  We pick up a picture and reminisce on love obtained, lost and re found.  We cherish the sweet pecks that turn into passionate kisses and hugs we never want to forget.

In life we recognize tomorrow is never promised but we live for today-for today honor the little things that aren't materialistic.  Respect the friendships, remember the lovers and worship your present but remind yourself if what is or who is presently in your life doesn't understand the little things you do and thank you for them, then you must decide if they, he or she is worth you remaining.

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AND THIS TOO SHALL PASS

It's so very hard to say good-bye to anyone that leaves our lives.  The saying "and this too shall pass" is so far removed when we are going through our tragedy.  The feeling of emptiness, loneliness and sadness consumes our being how can we get through these tough times?  What helps is having someone to talk to who won't judge and will just listen.

In relationships we invest enough to receive what we put into it.  It's hard to explain how you feel when the person you have given your all to has disappeared, fallen sick, is unfaithful or passes away.  We continue to hear "and this too shall pass" but when will our heart begin to heal again?  Will we ever find love again?

The saying, "And this too shall pass" often ignites anger that someone would utter these words but once it sets into our minds we realize that life does go on and it's true what once caused us hurt and we thought we could never get through, we actually did "And This Too Shall Pass,"  has indeed passed.

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FORGIVENESS

As the year begins its countdown to 2012 the question of forgiveness is unavoidable.  Why go into the New Year holding onto baggage and grudges?  One great lesson learnt is anger towards another only weighs you down and causes you to become miserable and sick.

Forgive your: parents, lover, spouse, kids, teacher, siblings, uncle, aunt, cousin, in-laws, boss, friend, co-worker etc.  Just say out loud, I FORGIVE YOU! Avoid the sarcasm, snide remarks and just let go-forgiving is more so for your peace of mind not for who you are forgiving.

People, even you make mistakes and deserve a change to show redemption.  Forgiving someone else lifts such a load upon your heart and adds years to your life.  Let go and forgive-show you are the bigger person and that you possess understanding, compassion and kindness. 

I said forgive but let us not forget because in the same breath, we don't want to be a fool twice in life.  Forgive to allow the relationships to rebuild at its own pace.

Analyze that so we can analyze this.

LOVE WITHOUT A LIMIT

When you fall in love-real true love, where your heart beats when you hear this persons voice on the phone, smell the cologne or perfume, your stomach aches when they go away-that's love.  Question is what is your limit in loving someone.

Love these days seems like there is no limit.  Young girls allow themselves to be pumped by these boys they think love them.  Girls are willing to hide drugs for these boyfriends.  These boyfriends are openly disrespecting there mothers for these girls and both sexes are going to jail for the other.  What is the limit to loving someone?

What happened to the getting to know you phase, dinners and the movies?  Now, it's kiss, sex and sex with my friends too, after you sex me.  Kids having kids thinking it's love only to realize a majority of what they thought was love was a joke or rather another number added to say they slept with he or she.

Let's get back to the simple love-rather than doing anything and thinking it's Love Without A Limit that type of love only ends badly.

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EYES WIDE OPEN

We often take for granted what has been bestowed upon us-food, shelter, clothing.  Another Thanksgiving has come and gone.  People are already shopping for Christmas, Black Friday was a triumphant event and we see people spending what they don't even possess to please someone else.  My advice to all of you thrifty spenders is to keep your eyes wide open and not fall into more debt in trying to buy someone off for some sort of attention.

Keep in mind when someone gives you something there's always a motive behind it especially when the gift is coming from someone who has some sort of admiration for you and you have no desire to return those feelings back-Advice, again keep your eyes wide open because he or she is looking for something more in return. The better advice would be to not accept the gift at all.

Message here is to be aware, sensitive and alert to not lead people on or take them for granted and not expect for them to be upset and seek retribution.  Eyes Wide Open as opposed to eyes wide shut be on your toes at all times.

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REJECTION EQUALS FREEDOM

Rejection isn't a wall that blocks your path its an arrow that directs.  It isn't meant to harm you it's meant to arm you with the knowledge you need to move on to your destiny.

People often reject us because we do not meet their expectations-really try informing them that they have not met your expectations.  Remember you do not need, require or allow others who don't live your life, pay your bills, solve your problems, dictate or direct your feelings.

I love telling people kick rocks and suck my teeth afterwards-think about it-people do things to you that affect you because you allow them to.  Stop inviting them into your world if all they plan to do is pyt you down and continue to reject you.  I say eject them before they think about rejecting you.

The freedom of control is so amazing and taking a stand before someone else trys to control your path is rewarding enough.  Who you rejecting? not me because I am free.

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STILL MAKING CHANGES

There are times with each approaching seasonal change we find ourselves needing to make a change or needing a change whether with work or in a relationship.  For some reason we are all afraid of change.

Change is always expected so you can always bet that change is inevitable.  It is about you getting into a frame of ind and accepting change for what it is.  Your attitude has to be positive that you comprehend change is for the better.

Begin by making changes within yourself.  Let go of extra baggage-Let loose, assess, determine and interpret what is best for your life who is best to remain in your circle-Be that man/woman in the mirror-start making a change for the betterment of you.  Change your ways and be who you want to be not what others want you to be.

Design your life path the way you envision it.  Live your best life ever-Still Making Changes isn't meant to be easy if it were, life would be a bore!

Analyze that so we can analyze this! Make the change! Go for it!

IN SEARCH OF SATISFACTION-II

He/she/they are never content with what is right in front of there faces-why is that?  So, what you don't have money hand over fist but you have love.  We know, love doesn't seem to be free anymore or pay the bills but what is true love?  Once you truly learn how to love, there is no need to search for that satisfaction.

Do you really think name brand items will give you the satisfaction you seek?  Are you thinking things should just be handed down to you without you having to work hard for it?  Keep on your search for satisfaction, cause you obviously have not already realized you have a world of worth in front of you.

Here's the test-do you have clean clothes, a place to lay your head, food in your fridge and someone to lean on?  if you have answered yes then what more are you in search of?  Some of us take for granted the riches we already have.  The most important of these riches is someone that loves us back unconditionally.

If you are still in search of satisfaction, then I hope you find what you are looking for.  I encourage you all to please start with looking within what you already have right in front of you.

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MASK

It's Halloween people-year round we from time to time become people we think others want us to be.  Be mindful of your enemies but be more attentive to those around you in your circle that smile very wide in your face.  These are the people with the mask that will turn on you first.

Time will reveal who wars the authentic smile and whose heart is in the right placefrom those in sheep clothing, plotting to destroy your success-don't always seem like your are the victim because there are times when we ourselves wear these same exact mask-we're not perfect.

Question, what do you do when you find out your lover, spouse or soul mate are the ones wearing the mask?  what happens when the eureaka moment occurs and you realize the relationships you have been involved in were all illusions covered up.

Answer-clear up your rose colored glasses, wash your eyes and confront the masked person and be rid of the phoniness-there's no need to continue the charade unless you too were aware of how the relationship stood and you too love the masquerade.

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PLEASE NO LABELS NEEDED

Just because you get married does it mean you have to take his last name? Is this a problem if you don't?

Why do people use labels to describe women that are assertive we get called the B-word, or we hear that we are too bossy or if we so happen to see a successful handsome man that we want to get to know better we are immediately called a gold digger.

Please stop with the labels and women, what's up with calling your man big poppa, daddy or sugar daddy? What happened to boo or babe? Those other labels suggest negative connotation.

Men and women learn how to respect each other. Watch the labels you use, some are offensive and derogatory. Respect your woman as long as she has dignity and self-worth you have no justification for the nasty labels. And women, don't start the negative label calling on a man and then turn around and get upset if he sinks to your level. Basically, do not give each other an opening to place pathetic and disrespectful labels on each other-take pride in yourself at all times.

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SO SICK

There are times when you get so sick to your stomach its unexplainable. doctors have no cure-they seem baffled-confused and recommend that you just get some good old fashion rest.

Here's some ideas to what's really making you so sick-it's yourself. Look in the mirror. You have become so sick of what you have allowed yourself to become. You are sadden by the weight gain, weight loss, love gone and forgotten, a spouse under the same roof that just doesn't acknowledge your worth. Who wouldn't be so sick after realizing you have lost who you one were.

How do we get out of being sick and having this sickness? What could possibly be the cure?

Step 1. Know your self-worth
Step2. Say what you mean and stand firm on what you believe
Step3. Open the door and sweep him/her out
Step 4. Look in the mirror the extra pounds you had put on are gone, your tears have stopped, your head is clear and you can finally recognize the person starring back at you in the mirror.

No need to be so sick anymore-Analyze that so we can analyze this!

IS IT OVER NOW?

Now just wait a minute? Did he/she just say that they needed space? Where did that come from? There were never any signs of unhappiness? Come now really! Didn't you notice how he/she would start saying they're working late or they're meeting friends for dinner or a long lost family member is in town?

Didn't you realize that the couple things you use to do began to fizzle down-no more movie night, family events, going out to dinner but now you're both doing those things with your "friends." When did the relationship change?

When did the I care for you, the I love yous stop? When did the love making every other day become once every 3 months? Let me guess did he/she use the excuse for not having sex because they were too tired, have a headache or the latest line, sex is so overrated!

BEWARE! the above means he/she just has lost interest in the relationship. Now the ball is in your court- do you care to fix it and get the love and attention back or do your own thing and move on? Don't be left standing alone asking is it over now when right now you can make a change and reinvent your relationship before it truly is over.

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LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT

As the season has clearly changed in temperature and on the calendar and our clocks will soon be turned back an hour, let us not put our dreams backwards as well. One must be thirsty for achieving success. You cannot imagine that success will just fall into your laps.

I learned that in life the things you want and think you need most do not come so easy-if it did, then it wasn't meant for you. Basically, life is what you make it-either you are going to persevere or fall flat on your face-but at least you tried and did not just let the hour, days and years go by and expect something to happen for you magically when you have not put the effort in obtaining that dream.

Stand firm today and begin to reflect on what your plans are for your life. Begin to bullet out your concepts and ideas of what you want to do. No idea is stupid. Write it down and analyze how you would accomplish what needs to get done. This is your life. Make it the best life ever.

How are you going to define your life and carve it out to what you want it to be? After all, life is what you make it! Analyze that so we can finally analyze this.

MAKING A CHANGE

As the season changes I find it quit comforting to make a n inner change for myself. this is the perfect time to reflect on accomplishments, setting new goals and remaining focused on your own needs.

Making a change takes a lot of self-reflection and taking a good hard look at who is starring back at you in the mirror. Do you like the person who is looking back at you? If not then what change are you willing to make?

In making a change whether at a new job, new relationship or a new path in self-improvement, we have to be true to ourselves and acknowledge we are not perfect but embrace the fact that we can identify a glitch, take criticism and self-improve.

Making a change doesn't mean losing who you are its about adapting to who you are shaping to be. Make a change for your not for no one else. What change are you making in your life today or tomorrow?

Analyze that so we can Analyze this...

Enough is Enough

When do you think a man or woman should walk away from a relationship?

Does one wait for an affair to come to light? Does one call it quits when the other becomes unemployed, sick or hitting rock bottom? Do we view people who ask for a divorce as cowards? Is it our place to judge someones relationships when we know nothing about what happens behind closed doors?

Question for the couples, what happened to the vows you took in front of your family and friends? Remember,for better or for worst, for richer or for poorer in sickness and in health wait the best one, till death do us part. These vows are hard but anything worth fighting for takes hard work-but when you believe you have done all you can do then, its time to say Enough is Enough and walk away with a mutual understanding rather than an order of protection.

Guess we shouldn't judge someone for their choices. Sometimes, relationships are what they are. If one person is progressing and the other is stagnant you can either motivate your partner or walk away when you have had enough. Have you had enough with your significant other? if so what are your next steps?

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DETOX TIME

How do you detox from toxic people in your life? Especially when they are family? The greatest support in your endeavors should come from your family and best friends but what occurs when the ones you think are on your side turn out to be the ones wishing bad upon you and want to kick you down and stab you in the back.




Remedy-Cure-Analysis-tell them to kick rocks! they don't pay your bills, write you a check or are your first thoughts when you get out of bed and need help. Learn to be your own best friend and like a detox tea-flush them out!




Negative people in your life are parasites they eat at you bit by bit until they see your bones. Lesson learned- If you know the people around you are toxic re-evaluate why you need them so close in your circle then little by little contact them less and less-they'll get the point.




In order for you to strive and make your own difference weed out the new growth, cut it at the root so it never reappears.




Who do you need to detox from? Analyze that so we can analyze this.

KNOW YOUR LIMIT

There seems to be a lot of times in which someone wants to test your will power or how far the can get what they can get of of you. It's up to you, the individual to set your boundaries to how and when enough is enough.

People are happy to take your kindness as weakness and keep draining you until you are useless to their needs and wants. If you give an inch oh boy! he/she/they will take a mile.

Know what you are saying yes or OK to with open eyes. Don't be no body's fool the bad guy in saying NO. It shows you can draw the line and you have control of what yo can and cannot do.

Listen, you're human, you're kind but you're not to be used!

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Stop Being Phoney

Why is it that when you see a FINE guy you start to act silly to the point you look down right stupid?

why is it you get around business men and you act like you have worked on Wall Street when the truth of the matter is your only real job was working at the corner store?

Why is it that you can't be comfortable in your own skin that you have to take on someone else's identity?

Can't you see we see through your mask? Be yourself people can't like who you really are if they have never met the real you. Ever wonder why marriages don't often last? Answer: we pretend during the honeymoon phase that we are who the person wants us to be then we reveal who we truly are once the license is signed and we in our decorated homes behind closed doors. Most importantly once the bank account says joint! He/She is a whole different person.

I say #Stopbeingphoney -Be true to you! Treat U Right and let's discuss to analyze this to understand the that!

Thank You

At times it may seem difficult to uter the words Thank You, to someone in your life that you take for granted in your life because you have a belief they must do for you because that's just the way it is. It's ashame that we forget how to have manners and the basic life skills to say the word Thank You, for: picking up groceries, holding the door, getting my messages or paying my bill.

It is bad enough we believe we have a birth right to just use our parents but what about the carelessness we enter in, when we disrespect our spouses and get comfortable and complacent in thinking yeah he/she will handle what needs to be handled and not say Thank You to them for making sure: the mortgage, cable, electricity and cell bill were paid for. Better yet, the kids were attended to and you have no worries at this time because they took care of it all. Where's the Thank You?

Basically, we as partners need to acknowledge our misbehaving and selfish ways before we lose that person in our life because we showed no appreciation. So for all you forgetful ladies and gents let me help you say Thank You, to that special person in your life that makes your life so easy and stress free.

Stop taking people for granted and thank your lucky stars you have someone that has your back. Analyze that so we can talk about this- What do you think do people in your life deserve for you to be courteous and thankful to them? if not why?

Don't Take It Personal

Don't take it personal when i wanna be all alone...Don't take it personal (Monica)


Sometimes we are seeking a time out. there's nothing wrong with wanting to be alone. This time out gives us the clarity we need to make decisions or to just de-stress. Why do we get so much attitude and grief when we're trying to work on our self-care? People need to stop being selfish and taking it so personal when we just don't want company.

Maybe people are offended by the delivery of how we say we want to be left alone. Seriously do we care what they think when all we're looking for is peace,tranquility and relaxation for just 1 to 2 hours in the day.

Don't take it personal we just trying to get a little me time so our mind is right in order to deal with the drama he/she or they may bring into our lives, can you analyze that?

Self-respect and Intergrity

Do you often feel disappointed or let down when others betray your trust? Do you feel something in the pit of your stomach when you hold others high on a pedestal only to witness they have lied in your face like Judas betrayed Jesus?

I question that persons self-respect and integrity. What values do people hold today? What shapes a persons thoughts when they are opening up their mouths and saying insane things without thinking first?

I am curious by peoples actions and in seeing their erratic behaviors makes me wonder what can that person do to you or me behind our back if they can lie straight in our faces?

Question: What defines your self-respect and integrity? Better yet, has society lost all its morals and obligation to educate and raise children with the correct ethics, morals and values?

Letting Go!

When you let go of the anger, frustration and most importantly the resentment you will:

• lose weight


• gain years on your life


• enjoy the company of others


• become more active and motivated to seek success


• look in the mirror and recognize the real you


• gain focus on what you need in life


• love you for you

Again how do you obtain the above? Simple answer, let go of the baggage, hate and animosity.

Some people people drop the 200+ lbs; the girlfriend/boyfriend, wife/husband, jump off/affair and they gain their sanity back and can clearly think again.

With the way they world is going we must let go of whatever it is that is holding, hindering and dragging us down.

Let Go! in order to achieve life happiness the way you want it.

Remember analyze this so we can continue to analyze that!

Can the U come before the I?

Have you ever gave someone your all expecting nothing but love in return? Has that person ever even given you a glance or have you always felt a little used because they always pushed you away to do something or be with someone else.

There's so much wrong in the way we handle our relationship and the way we treat ourselves. Why do we never put our wants and needs first? Why is it wrong for us to be selfish when others walk all over us time and time again?

How come we never say t o ourselves we never say to ourselves we deserve a break and here is what I am going to do for myself? How come we work so damn hard to take care of home but the people at home don't really give a damn about us? It's mostly can you, give me, I need, I want--Never have you heard, what do you want or need.

Well people can the U finally come before the I for once? What plan are you finally going to put in place that will qualify as you coming first this time? Example: I am going to put $50.00 a paycheck away for a monthly facial--your turn..until next time analyze this so we can analyze that!

Ocean Breeze

Life is what you make it. So why do we women make it so hard to find a good man? We set the expectations and raise the bar of what we want in a good man but end up settling for the no job having, weed smoking, curse you out, good for nothing types. I ask you again why?

The good man will bend over backwards to proclaim his love to you but you view that as he's a "punk". The good man will hold the door open, pull your chair open your car door but you see that as a weak man.

The good man sets time aside to spend time with you but you view it as he's crowding your space. Well guess what if you want a man to meet up to the check list you're creating then pay attention to the man in front of you doing the grand gesture to grab your attention. If not then like the ocean breeze it's just passing you by and you're eventually wasting your time seeking for what you call a good man.

In Search of satifcation.....

It seems that we are all searching for satisfation. Whether it be in life, our careers or our relationships. In the end we are never satisfied with what we have. Why is that? It's just a wonder why we can never be happy within our own skins. We allow the media to enter our lives and dictate how we should look, act, dance and think. Have we become mindless robots? What will it take for us to find that satisfaction within us?

Ladies and Gents what are your thoughts? Why are we so dissatisfied with what's right in front of our faces? I say WAKE-UP! and begin to take care of you, before you become so overwhelmed by the superficial and ungrateful objects in your life, that you disappear in knowing who you are.

Analyze that and treat yourself right. Until next week all. Don't forget to grab a treat...

The S.E.A.T

The S.E.A.T (Self-esteem of Empowerment in Achieving pride & Total control)- Coming Soon Life Coaching seminar;

Take a S.E.A.T and relax your feet.

The S.E.A.T has been idea that was generated from years of caring for children and adolescents in the foster care system and almost losing me in the process. We often become overwhelmed with others rather than putting ourselves first. You fall victim to bad relationships whether it be a family member, a lover or our employer. We become consumed with what others think and say and how to please everybody else in the world and forgetting who we are and allowing us to come first.

The S.E.A.T is designed to assist others in finding out who they are in their lives and reaching out for a life line to get their lives back on track by undertaking my services as a Life Coach and Psychotherapist.

I am in this business because I fell victim to forgetting my needs, goals and wants and almost lost myself to working for an establishment rather than working for myself and making my dreams come true. I serve all individuals seeking to put themselves first but having a hard time understanding the foundation and basic principle of how to attract the life they are seeking and finally evolving into achieving the happiness they deserve.

I will be able to guide you in creating a personal identity, developing spirituality, life purpose, enhancing communication skills, creating high quality relationships, understanding the past to create a desired future and more,

Always remember to do self-care first. I do come before you! Make sure others understand that self-esteem of empowerment in achieving pride and total control is your life goals. Without you being right how can you be there for others?

Treat Me Right: Stand firm on your beliefs

Treat Me Right: Stand firm on your beliefs

Stand firm on your beliefs

Long time friends but I had to take care of some things.

Tonight's commentary is on standing firm on your beliefs. It's funny how people want to test your intelligence and try and manipulate you into doing certain things that seem to steer you from the beliefs you based your life foundations on.

You will be faced with a lot of challenges, people will lure you with what you perceive are the finer things in life. But the reality is nothing in life is free unfortunately not even love (there's a thin line and a price to pay).

If you feel that you're unhappy with your job but you stay because you need money. If you're not content in a relationship or a marriage but you can't leave either due to the children or economic factors. Just keep in mind you have to treat your self right in order to stay right and to stand firmon your beliefs.

Do not ever allow anyone to take you out of your character or make you feel you are a no body. Keep in mind that you have to always put you first because who else will? Always do you first and never compromise what you know is right and are the basic core values that have shaped you as an individual.

Treat Me Right: ARE YOU SERIOUS?

Treat Me Right: ARE YOU SERIOUS?

ARE YOU SERIOUS?

Sometimes life kicks you good and hard. Sometimes you question what the F is all this worth? Sometimes you just got to get the courage and walk away before you lose all of who you once were. Then there's time when you want to come out and say are you serious? People can be so stupid, ignorant, racist and just plain mean. Are you serious? I even got a look for it and a pose when I have to address idiots about their rationale for doing the foolish ish they do. How many of you go a Are you Serious? moment or story for me?

Just remember don't let no one Disturb your positivity...continue to make your changes..Rise above the Hate and Haters... You know who you are..