WORLD PEACE

As we exit 2012 to usher in 2013 we seek peace.  Peace is a divine idea that lives in the hearts and minds of all humankind.  When conflict arise our hearts cry out for peace.  Although we may not know how to bring peace to the external world we can bring to our internal world which is the first step.

Keep focus a higher brig embody peace and cultivate calm in the face of challenge.  All we need is some sort of inner calmness and radiate our positive thoughts to those we encounter.

The only way to bring in the New Year is to ask for world peace so that we can live in harmony.

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'TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE.....

Many blessings and reasons to reflect positively and we celebrate, rejoice and thank those around us and that know us best.  Remember when you were five what was the night before Christmas like?  Memories good or bad are ours for life we should have no regrets.  We are who we are and that only make us stronger.

Twas the night before we grew up and realized our growing responsibilities as adults.  We can learn to better prioritize and make changes to reflect our growth.  The moral of 'twas the night before is to allow yourself  room for error in choices you make and space to not repeat those mistakes.

'twas the night before you began to look into your future and saw how fortunate you truly,y are.

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WHAT I NEED IS UNDERSTANDING

Misunderstandings often erupt due to differences in what is being said or done.  Misunderstandings require deeper understanding.  We all want the same thing; security, safety, abundance, wholeness, opportunities, love, respect and peace of mind and heart.

We have to get a clear understanding of what our needs and wants are in order to understand the desire and needs of others.

What I need is understanding.  Communication and pure honesty that leads to 100% trust.

Can we all say we have that understanding in our current relationships?

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FORGIVE

Forgiveness may sometimes seem daunting but it is essential for self progress.  If you hold resentment, blame or un-forgiveness in your heart you lose balance.  Realize when you are willing to forgive and let go of anger and guilt you feel brand new and positive.

When you forgive you are not granting anyone permission to harm you or someone else you are simply releasing the energy that you carried about mistakes you and others have made.  The past is the past move forward with compassion love and kindness towards yourself and others.

As you forgive you can change your thoughts, words and action.

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EXPECTATION

Some people anticipate family gatherings with joyful expectation others with a sense of dread.  Expectation is actually a powerful state of mind that shapes our experiences.  If I am expecting an unpleasant experience I may be replaying a painful past rather than recreate the same experience, I change my expectation.

The past exist only in memory so let go and begin anew.  Regardless what happens around you remain centered in what happens within you.  Be compassionate and kind.  Release the need to change others.  Embrace positive expectations.  Let go of the past that stagnates your present and lead to your future.

Expect nothing and receive everything!

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SOMETIMES WE HAVE THOSE DAYS

Some days I'm up some days I'm down.  Somedays I wish I weren't't around.  It's difficult to let go of someone when you have given your all to make things work.  Sometimes you have to face hard facts and learn to let go.

Sometimes you have to love yourself before you allow someone to love you.  There's no need to continue the pain of a broken heart.  Don't allow someone to tell you they'll love you and be there for you when you don't comprehend self love.

Sometimes rock bottom hits hard and then you learn that you have to stand strong.  Acquire the skills of self sufficiency don't allow one person to drive you crazy due to a broken heart.

Sometimes you just got to be brave.  Somedays it will just be you.  Sometimes it's just fine to be at peace.

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I WANT TO SAY THANK YOU!

Sit back and reminisce on what your expectation really are.  What really inspires you or deters you?  There is so much to be thankful for, don't you think?  We often complain about the little things that just don't make sense.  We argue and fight with one another and get nowhere at the end of the day.

Personally I want to say thank you for those that have entered and existed my life because they all played a role in who I am today.  We must be thankful for relationships old, new or lost because they shaped us and gave us memories to look back on.

So, I say thank you with a smile, a little mist in my eyes and a tear drop falling to help you understand that despite our differences I wish you the best.

I want to say thank you for giving me the ability to know I must love me before anyone else.

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LOVES KNOCKING AT MY DOOR

The greatest accomplishment in life is knowing, feeling and being loved or in love.  Few of us really know what live is.  Some think having sex is being in love, when the reality is that love can be the simple jester of holding hands and making it your business to know what the other likes and dislikes and what it takes to make that person smile.

Too many of us have screwed up thoughts and misconceptions of what the word LOVE is.  The lessons of love are not too late to learn.  We have to allow our hearts to be open to receive love and trust that other person.  It will be hard because we have been hurt before but it is time to let love back in through the door.  KNOCK! KNOCK! Will you answer?

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I DID MY BEST

"I did my best but I guess my best wasn't good enough cause here we are back to where we were before.  Seems like nothing ever changes we're back to being strangers wondering if we oughta stay or head on out the door". James Ingram

Can you honestly say you have truly done your best in being honest and faithful to one another? Have you really did your best in keeping each other happy and making yourself happy?

Stop pretending your life is perfect  people can see through your window that's beginning shatter.  No one will judge you for doing what you need to do for you.  If others judge so what! They are not you and will never be you.  As long as you know you did your best then that's all that matters now you must move forward.

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IS THIS THE END

"Is this the end are you my friend it seems to me you ought to be free.  You use to be mine when the chips were down.  You use to be mine when I weren't around.  Can't you see how I feel?  All these feelings that I feel are real oh cant you see I need you" New Edition

Such a perfect song to question what you already know the answer to.  They say not to waste time giving someone a second chance when there's somebody better out there waiting for you to give them a chance.

Maybe it is the end of a beautiful friendship, partnership or marriage, whatever united you has most likely dissipate there's no need to fester in hate after you have cried and realized you did all you could and it is the end know you did your best.  No need to harbor anger let it go and begin your NEW happiness and never question your actions keep moving forward. The END!

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HIDE AND SEEK

You cannot and must not try to erase the past merely because it does not fit your present life.  Understand that it is because of your past history you have a strong presence today.

Pay homage to the things you went through in life and the people you encountered whether good or bad they helped shape your here and now.  There is no need to be ashamed or embarrassed it is what it is and you are who you are.

Stop playing peek and boo and hide and seek stand up, stand down and seek what you have been hiding from.

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SUCCESS

Success is something you attract by the person you become.  Don't sell yourself short in achieving your greatness.  You'll be surprised to know how far you can go from the point where you thought it was the end.  Never give up on your hopes and your dreams.

Get up each morning stretch yourself out roll over and scream your success.  Believe in you at all times.  Get a look in the mirror love what you see take ownership of your goodness.  Take pride in your worth shout out your success.

Thank the Almighty another step and day accomplished to a goal more attainable.  Count your blessings see what's in front of you.  Your SUCCESS is now!

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HOLD ON

These words below explain so much of what we as people in and out of love go through see for yourself.

No one can change your life except for you don't ever let anyone step all over you. Just open your heart and mind.  It is really fair to feel this way inside?

Someday somebodys gonna make you want to turn around and say good-bye until then baby are you going to let them hold you down and make you cry?

Don't you know this can change? Things will go your way if you hold on for one more day.

                           Wilson Phillips

There's nothing left to say if you are in love keep holding on if love holds on back but if it causes you pain can you honestly HOLD ON?

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FOCUS

Fall has officially arrived leaves are on the ground.  Some of us still remain stuck on issues unresolved.  It takes others time to move pass hurt, confusion and sorrow.  We all are built differently to deal with tragedy.

Remaining focused and gaining self-control is the priority.  In fact remaining focus during unbearable times its the key to getting through what is yet to come.

Being focus, being in control, being free to speak where does that truly exist?  Answer within each and everyone of us.  We were given a gift to speak whether by voices, sign, vision or through artistic ways we say what we need to say with grace and dignity while remaining FOCUS in seeing our goals through.

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FRAME OF MIND

When you detect negative thoughts running through your mind you have the option to hit the off switch.  It is your life what you think and let out your mouth needs to be thought about first because your words are a reflection of who you are.

Beauty is about living your life and being happy with yourself inside and out and not worrying about what people think of you.  It's about expecting things for yourself before you can do them.  Think positive be in the right frame of mind at all times.

The way you process life will determine what your tomorrow will be like-use the right frame of mind.

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MY DESTINY

Negative people will always try and drag you down to their level.  You should love them but always rise above them.  Keep in mind it's your destiny not there's.

You cannot change your destination overnight but you can change your direction overnight. Plan out your next steps with precision for this is your destiny not theirs.

My destiny is inevitable, it's fate.  It is bound to happen at it's own pace and time.  My destiny has hidden power that will control my future.  My destiny is destined for me just like yours is destined for you.

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IT'S NOT AN EASY ROAD

No one said life would be easy. No one said life would be hard.  Tomorrow makes exactly eleven years when America was hit with tragedy. 9/11/01 marks a day a time, an hour, a year that's etched in our mind forever.  The pain gets relived each year but this year it falls on the exact same day.

It's not an easy road 11 years later we try and move on.  We go on about our daily lives but the horror gets replayed when 9/11 roles around.  All we can do is live our lives move on the best we can and cherish and be humble for what we have and pay homage to those that are gone.

Each year we honor the brave ones we praise those first respondents and after 11 years we still are greatly affected.  For me it will never be an easy road the vivid images lay dormant and become alive with each new year in the end it's not an easy road.

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REMEMBER THE TIME

On days like this Labor Day, I remember my childhood.  Coming from a West Indian background smells are most important to me.  Scents of cinnamon, red snapper, rice and peas brings a smile to my eyes.  Remembering the time of Summer nights coming to an end.  Playing freeze tag and hide and seek. Ah! Such profound memories.

Remember the time of playing spin the bottle, going back to school shopping and crossing your heart hoping to die sticking a needle in your eye to prove your loyalty.  Ah! Precious memories never end.  Those friendships are timeless.  To still know someone who knew you when you were six is priceless!

Moments like this you hold on to because it brought out the best in you.  No bills, no worries and no headaches.  Just you being able to be carefree and having fun!  As we bid Summer farewell keep those thoughts close to your heart and always remember the time!

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DETERMINATION

When you want something bad enough you find a way to get it.  There is nothing wrong with being determined setting your sites on a goal and going for it.

Stay vigilant set your mind on the right path allow positive energy to flow your way shut down people working to destroy what you so creatively built from scratch.

Aim high, aspire deep and be at peace with decisions you make in the end always remain determined to what you want.

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LIVE YOUR LIFE

Why live with regrets for the things you have not done when you probably should regret some of the things you have done.  Life is too short to second guess all your actions.  Live your life to the fullest.

Take time to tell that special someone how you feel or rather how they made or make you feel.  If they offend you speak up!  If  the loving was good let it be known.  Life is too short to not glory in it.

Let loose.  Smile some more, giggle the way you use to when you were four, play a childhood game and actually fulfill some of those dreams.  Life's too short so live your life for you no one else.

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UNBREAKABLE

A lot of us are like tea bags you cannot tell how strong we really are until you put us in hot water testing us will only prove how resilient we truly are.

People will come into our lives only if we allow them in. Understand the power you hold in speaking up for yourself.  Do not allow others the authority to dictate to you what you need over what you want.

People will try and break your spirit, mess with your mind and your money but you have the secret key to push back and move forward once you put your foot down and regain control they will see you are UNBREAKABLE.

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LESSONS LEARNED

There is a lesson in almost everything that you do and getting the lesson is how you move forward.It is how you enrich your spirit, mind and body.

You will be placed in compromising positions and it will be up to you to choose ethically what you will do.  Whatever choice you make will come with a lesson learned.

When we go through our break-ups or lose a job to get a new job, this all comes with a lesson to be learned.  In the end it is more so how you interpret what you have learned and how you decide to progress with those lessons learned.

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HERE I STAND

Sometimes in life it takes for a catastrophic event to occur in order to see who is truly for you and with you.  It takes a lot of understanding and time within yourself to acknowledge who are the people you must let go of because they are not true to you.

In life it takes a lot of courage to stand up for yourself to realize you are not to be walked all over on. You are to know your self worth and if it means hurting someones feelings in order for you to stand on your values then be prepared.

No one knows the path you walk or the stance you must take.  Allow yourself to shine and let others know it is here you stand either they with you or against you but Here I Stand.

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IT'S A CELEBRATION

It's time to come together it's up to you what's your pleasure? Everyone around the world come on!

There's a party going on right here a celebration to last throughout the years.  This is how Treats and Advice feels as we celebrate one year in business providing weekly blogs, daily advice and treats throughout the year.

We want to share our celebration with all of you and say Thank You for the support and love.  We promise to continue to bring more blogs, Treats and Advice throughout the years.

We will be off line for the next week as we take our celebration out of the country to treat ourselves right.

Thank you once again to our family, friends, fans and followers.

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IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED

There are times when we have to decide when to let grudges go and move on to our own happiness. Sometimes it's hard to forgive knowing all the hurt you have suffered but, lessons have been learned and what I have seen is those that have caused you hurt continue to hurt themselves. In the end, their guilt of what they have done to you will live with them forever. So, it's in our own best interest to forgive but as I have always preached many times in other blogs, never forget! If you allow yourself to forget what has been done to you, for you or against you, then you open the door to allow yourself to be hurt and played again. Don't let your pride get in the way of moving forward. It's because we are resilient that we continue to close chapters in our lives and build new editions-don't make life too complicated. Analyze that so we can analyze this!

THINGS THAT GO BOOM!

STOP! DROP! ROLL! That's what the firemen teach us in case of a fire, what we need to do.  How about applying that to your love life?  Stop! Drop! Roll! Meaning stop reacting, drop your attitude and roll into a new day.  Sounds good right?  Use this concept rather than letting things get out of hand and causing you uncontrollable stress.

Stop! Drop! Roll! into a new beginning on how you view things in your relationship.  Don't allow pride to consume you and you don't allow yourself time to process truth but rather you jump to what you conjure up as being the truth.

Be mindful to not over think an issue causing you to lose control and allowing things to go BOOM! instead of taking time to Stop! Drop! Roll!

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IT'S GONNA TAKE A MIRACLE

They say life is short, enjoy it to it's fullest-that saying sounds so simple doesn't it? But, it is the little things that will get to us the most like hearing a baby cry for the first time, being able to see, being able to taste, walk, touch and talk.  It is the simple things we take for granted in life.

The miracle of love-the greatest thing we treat so unkindly when you find that person that accepts you for you and all you do is find fault in all they do. It's truly sad because that person will soon tire of your antics and leave for good. I told you its the simple things.

"It's gonna take a miracle to make me love someone new because I'm crazy for you" Yeah! that verse sounds so good but how true is that?

Miracles do in deed happen only when you allow them and don't let opportunities pass you by.

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ALL I WANT IS TO BE SUCCESSFUL

June is the month of just being successful.  To be successful you must decide exactly what you want to accomplish then resolve to pay the price to get it.

As an optimist it does not seem too much use being anything else because the art of being successful is within yourself.  Trust yourself create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life.  You will be surprised to know how far you can go from the point where you thought it was the end.

Being successful allows you to evolve into the person you were intended to be.  All we want in life is to be successful, whether its monetary or with love create your own success and learn to just be happy.

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MY WORTH

Before you can win, you have to believe you are worthy.  Stop and think about the time, effort and energy you put into work, home, friends, family and that relationship.  Did you ever calculate your worth?

Before you can truly put your best foot forward you have to know the value of your worth.  Sit and process the endless nights and early mornings of working overtime and not getting the increase just a pat on the back with a "good job" saying-Seriously what's your worth?

Before you can say I do you have to know if he/she really worth you and you them?  Fall back because this process is life changing where you need to know you first before you get to know he or she undeniable figure out your worth.

My worth is being secure in me to know no matter the challenges, disappointments and heartache, I can shout out my worth is my dignity and self-determination.

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INSPIRATION VS DESPERATION

In life you need either inspiration or desperation to get you moving.  Inspiration can come in many forms so can desperation we can get into people, places and things because we are inspired to be around them. Then again we become so desperate that we seek out those same people, places and things for our own gratification.

We make choices based on inspiration we make decisions based on desperation we are who we are due to hard work and being inspired by greatness. We go down life paths eager to become someone or something we are not due to being desperate to fit in.

Why do you seek inspiration only in the end becoming desperate to obtain things not within our grasp.  You tell me what's the difference with inspiration vs desperation?  Answer you! You hold the power to decide if you want to be inspired or desperate for what you are looking for.

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WAIT AWHILE LONGER

Why as people who are in love or lust do we continue to get into situations that will just break our hearts? Why do we go back to less? Is it because we are too impatient to wait for the best?

We don't practice having patience in this world and often settle for what we have and convince ourselves we can make it last.  NOT you can't make a person love you when they are in love with someone else and you can't make someone stop cheating if it's already engraved in his or her thoughts.

Don't worry about time moving on wait awhile longer in the path of obtaining love because you just settled for the here and now.

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BETTER DAYS

When things seem rough, people continue to betray you,misguide you and abuse you, look to knowing there will be better days.  If you continue to feel that your are being targeted and have no idea why, confront that person eye to eye.

Listen we all go to work to make ends means but we have to stop thinking that we must eat, sleep and breath our work because in the end you are replaceable don't think you're not.

Search for your better days in knowing at the end of the day you are in your own space doing what you like to do.  Do not allow others to dictate your happiness enjoy your better days on your own terms.

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MAYBE YEAH-MAYBE NAY!

Maybe you should just say it! Stop bottling it up inside confront-be direct, don't waste your time.

Maybe you should just be silent let it be what it will be. Don't lose control ignore it and just let go.

Maybe it wasn't meant to be.  The stares, the whispers, the glances and winks aren't worth losing it all is it?

Maybe now you realize if given into temptation causes all these anxieties imagine the guilt if you cheat!

Maybe just maybe you might be left standing alone.

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MOTHER MAY I?

Does one really have to have given birth to know unconditional love? To all the women who stand strong, longing to be a mother, I salute you!  Being a mother means dedication, guidance, standing by that youth, child and adult for life no matter they are wrong or right.

Mother may I ask permission to accept your love, time, patience and life long dedication to be in my life for life.   Again, I salute all women who have proven their strength in being god parents, aunts, big sisters, wives, lovers, best friends and shinning brightly through bad times only as proof of more resilience.

Mother may I take this day to say thank you.  We love you, we appreciate you-remember being a mother is more than just being able to go through childbirth.  Being a mother means you can give love at no cost and expect nothing in return.  To all the men raising children alone we salute you too.

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SHOW TIME

It's sad to say but we often put on a show to others so they can't really see the real us.  We wear make-up, camouflage with head bands, scarfs or hats or even dark sun glasses.  We do everything to avoid revealing the real us.

Who are we?  Who are you? Who am I?  Basically we're all the same, just looking for notoriety, trying to fit in, be down, be cool-just trying to be accepted.  We want to set trends, be honored, looked up to but most all be accepted. So, why do we go through all the drama?  Easy because of peer pressure.

Everyone is waiting for the show-to gossip, talk and laugh-why do you think? Reality shows are taking over.  It's because we love and get a kick out of others drama-check the time and look around its almost time for a new day and for us to go and put on our own show.

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DON'T SECOND GUESS YOURSELF

Anytime you get ready to confront something in your life, there will always be a lot of  "what if''s" that people will put in your head.  Remember success in not final, failure is not fatal-it is the courage to continue that counts.

Believe in what is right.  Stand by your words.  Remember what you say leaks out into the universe and becomes known. The opportunity for something great may only knock once but those temptations keep leaning on the doorbell until you let them in.

Get some self-control.  Know your knowledge, believe in your strength and never let others discourage you from achieving your own success.  Regardless if he/she or they say baby I love you-don't do it or go.  A true person that loves you will cheer you on and encourage you on to do your best.

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ACCOUNTABILITY

If you look in the mirror and don't like what you see don't blame the mirror.  If you look at the world and don't like what you see, you can't blame the world.  It is within all of us as we stand living and breathing to execute change and stand up for our beliefs, goals and dreams.

Remember who you surround yourself around.  People that are in your inner circle, that are too weak to follow their own dreams will always find a way to discourage yours.  Do not wait for a leader to lead you.  Do it on your own, alone.  Take your life in your own hands.  Be accountable for your own destiny.

Let go of what's not meant to be in order to clear a path for the good stuff to find you.  Don't compromise yourself.  You are all you've got! Be ACCOUNTABLE for your actions, words and thoughts.  Accountability is the key.

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THE SIMPLE THINGS

Remember when you were 6 playing hop scotch, double dutch or hide and seek?  Remember when you were 10 and your only worry was making it home before the street lights came on?  Remember when you were 16 going to your junior prom waiting on the 1st kiss, turning 21 to finally drink freely and gamble?

Ah! the simple days and the simple things.  No bills, no stress, just carefree simple life-so when did we allow life to get so complicated?  How did we get the debt and fall for Mr. or Ms. Wrong?

Try being stationary for a moment and recapture the past.  Reflect on the best moment in time you had-smile, dance and sing.  The simple things bring us pleasure, the simple things are the best.  Remember when life was stress free?  Try and replicate those memories.

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RAISE YOU UP

April showers brings May flowers that's what we are told.  I have always interpreted this to mean when things seem bad and a cause is lost and gone look forward to knowing change will happen to move you beyond the hurt.

In relationships there is rain, thunder and snow.  But we can also see the sun, stars, moon and eventually the end of a rainbow.  However, when we are faced with the down pour in a relationship we always look for a quick fix.

Sometimes resolutions to issues should just be simple bit its not you and your significant  other should be able to look the other in the eye and say how you feel, voice your opinion freely and be aware that you can raise each other up in good and bad times-with love, care and respect.

With each day that goes by you should take pride in your partner raising you up and putting you on a pedestal not tearing you down.

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AWARENESS

The month of March has been about bringing awareness to many social issues.  I often wonder if we apply the same awareness to our own lives.  Are we aware of who we really are dating, falling in love with or marrying?  Do you know their favorite color, food or movie?  Do they know yours?

It's sad.  Are you aware that we live in a generation of not falling in love and staying together?  People don't take the time to figure out what they want .  They don't put in the effort in being aware of their own needs-we all need some self awareness and to not jump into all these different relationships or stay in one because everyone else is doing it.  Grow-up already.  Stop being a follower be original before you remain in a state of misery.

Get yourself together-learn the awareness of whose around you and what you need versus what you want because the want is what will fail you.

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PREPARATIONS

They say always be prepared for those unknown emergencies.  How can you be prepared for something you have no idea is about to happen? They say don't wait for disaster to occur plan ahead.  Again, we don't have a crystal ball to know what's next.  What we do have is our basic instincts, values and knowledge.

Start preparing for the little things, like having a flash light within reach or obtaining life insurance. Then we stop and think about how do we prepare for your partner, lover or friend leaving you without seeing the signs?  Ladies and gents, the signs were there you just chose to ignore them.  Begin to prepare to know that nothing last forever and cherish each day like it's your last.

Prepare your mind to be right-you have an innate resilience and survival is within your blood.  There is no real way to be prepared for life's mysteries you just have to be ready for what will be.

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MY TURN

Do good things really happen for those that wait?  Sometimes you have to process and distinguish your wants from your needs and stand up for what you believe.  Stop waiting for your turn-my turn just do it!

You have to realize that perhaps your turn may never come unless you make it come.  You have to voice your feelings and not be shy to say what you mean and mean what you say.

Everyday is your turn-my turn be up front with yourself, stay on top of what's relevant to your dreams.  If you're looking for someone else to assist you in reaching your goals than keep fooling yourself and keep waiting for them "my turn" success.

Be vigilant-aspire to reach the top and don't worry about the talks behind your back.  That just means you're important and it's your turn to shine.  Don't waste time, grasp your opportunities its your turn-my turn to be great!

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TRUST

When you trust someone it means you allow them into your life 100%.  You're personal business, the way you thing, behave and where you go and who you like and dislike.  To trust someone means you give your all and believe this person will never deceive you.

It's hard to know who to trust because no relationship is ever perfect and people go through their ups and downs throughout life.  People can appear to be one thing and behind your backs are deceitful.  No one can tell you who to trust just be mindful that sometimes when someone else knows something don't be surprised that what you have said to them comes right out their mouths to someone else.

We all have emotions and we are very reactive.  If you trust someone who you know is a hot head then, you're setting yourself up for failure and your trust will be shattered.  Do your homework, define trust look at who you confide in and think long and hard.  Maybe you should trust your journal or go to a confessional.

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GOOD HEALTH

Remember our theme a New Day-A New You! It's important to eat right and check your hear at all times.  Take your health seriously.  Too many people many people regardless of race or color are suffering with diabetes, high cholesterol and heart disease.

No matter the diets; Jenny Craig, Weight Watchers, Nutra-system etc. it's about will power.  You hold the power with what you eat.  With every bite you put in your mouth, begin to think about who depends and needs you.  Lose the weight the right way.  No one else knows what you go through emotionally.  Put you first which equates to healthy eating and a healthy you!

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GROWING PAINS

As another birthday comes and goes we often make list of the do's and don't's.  It hurts to realize we have to grow up as our parents get older and we become responsible for them or our child, nieces or nephews begin puberty (scary!) but reality.  Growing up for us all comes with some pain.

Knowing you must take the reigns-build your financial portfolio, check on your pension and invest in your own future. The growing pains that your're getting older and with each year you must understand that you have to grow-up and deal with the pains that adulthood comes with.

Sometimes the growing pains force you to act and pushes you to get unstuck from an uncomfortable relationship, job, friendships etc.  Allow yourself the opportunity to embrace your growing pains and learn from the process. Growing pains are just as it is said growing is painful we have our ups and downs but we all will get through it.

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WHAT IS LOVE?

V-DAY is tomorrow.  How do you show your love for that special someone?  Better yet why do we shower each other with love, chocolate, teddy bears, flowers, gifts and more on 2/14?

One should show their love to the ones they love on a daily basis. We exploit the true meaning of love and make it so meaningless when you say you love me but you have proven to be unfaithful time and time again.  So, I ask what is love?

Love is being there, supporting each other, surprising each other comforting each other.  Love doesn't mean buying a gift.  Love is love-hold me, kiss me, even making love not sex but the passion of LOVE.

So, celebrate tomorrow but then celebrate the day after that and the days to come.  Be loving daily not yearly.

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FORGIVENESS

Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.  When you let go of judgment, resentment, expectations or anger you open your heart and your life to experience growth and freedom.  Sometimes you have to let go of how much she/he or they have hurt you in order to allow new love to enter in.

Forgiveness shows others your maturity-that you can dismiss the nonsense and move on to what is truly for you.  Forgiveness will open new doors to a better you.  You will feels so different and free once you just let go.

I know it is harder to let go of what wrongs were done to you but whats more harder is the realization that he/she or they have moved on and your the one all alone living in your own misery-just let go and allow your self to forgive.

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ALL THAT GLITTER

Don't put all your eggs in one basket-always keep your options open and have more than one plan and way of dealing with a situation.

Always remind yourself not to be envious of what others have or what seems to be perfect remember all that glitters isn't always gold or what is best for you.

Remaining in a situation where you curse-he/she/they curse you, bruise you they get bruised isn't what we would call glitter.  There's no shame in walking away.  Don't worry about what people have to say. No one is perfect remember that all that glitters isn't what it appears to be.

Be true to yourself.  Know your limit-the decision is yours-look in the mirror face your truth. Look carefully once you leave an abusive situation that you cause upon yourself by not realizing your self-worth, you will see that the new you does glitter and you've made it through!

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DECISIONS

Is it hard to decide what to wear? how to comb your hair? what to eat or drink? Which route to take?  Decisions are so complex these days.  We have computers and gadgets to assist us with getting organized-what about a devise to help us decide on relationships?

Often times he/she/they can ask you the silliest question like do you still love me-any hesitation ignites a fight.  Why is it we can't just make the right decisions when it comes to our hearts?  Here's another question will you move in with me?  Hell some of us love the freedom of our home to come and go without questions.  Decisions to decide-gosh sometime just staying silent speaks volumes. The decision and answer is NO to both the above.

Decisions-Decisions its all up to you.  You hold your own fate by the decisions you make.  Analyze that so we can analyze that so we can analyze this.

ON TO THE NEXT ONE!

Week 3 are you tired of him/her or them?  Are you already thinking of being with someone else or reuniting with an ex? What happened to giving love a try or to keep fighting the good fight?

On to the next one can often lead to much regret, feelings of guilt and shame can surface-especially if you cheat based on no real reason.  Wait! there should never be a reason to cheat.  If you don't want to be with someone put your big girl/boy pants on and say so.

On to the next one can happen to you.  Sometimes you can seem too confident and believe your relationship is solid enough and you are keeping that person happy-Oh no wait a minute! he/she/they have done what you have done and moved on to the next one.  So think long and hard because you will be all alone especially when you try and return to find the next one in your bed.

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GREAT EXPECTATIONS

Hope we're all keeping to those New Years resolutions and holding on to our great expectations.  Some of you got engaged, found out that you're pregnant, brought a new home, got a new car or finally paid off the credit cards.  Then, there's the flip side the negativity peoples reality. They're still in an abusive situation broke almost jobless and homeless yest still finding the good in life.

Our greatest expectations is just expecting tomorrow will be and will get better. Avoid beating yourself up. As long as you keep getting up each day, breathing, hearing and seeing, that is the greatest expectation of all. The saying goes, Live-Love-Laugh.  This is so fitting to start your new day and each day there after.

Some say expect nothing and once it's received be joyous and content.  What's your greatest expectation?

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NEW DAY-NEW YOU!

Happy and prosperous New Year to all. It's the 2nd day of the year a chance to right your wrongs and treat ourselves right.  Be honest with yourselves stop being comfortable take a look in the mirror and love not like what you see.

It's a new day so make it a new you.  Stop procrastinating and giving up so soon.  Get your bucket list of wishes together and make them a reality.  Realize your blessings and smile at your achievements.  If you feel like you haven't accomplished your greatness then get out there and do it its a new day which equals a new you-no more excuses.

Learn to smile more-be more gracious-be humble-be alert.  All last year we've discussed putting you first, guess what, we won't stop this message because today is a new day for a new you and I comes before the they.  Put you first-keep treating you right.

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